Hail to the Queen

Question asked by a judge at the Miss USA Telecast in April 19 2009 of Miss. California,
" Vermont recently became the fourth state to legalize same-sex marriage," he said. "Do you think every state should follow suit, why or why not." http://www.abcnews.go.com/Entertainment/Television/Story?id=7381893&page=1

Miss California, Carrie Prejean, answered,
"We live in a land where you can choose same-sex marriage or opposite. And you know what, I think in my country, in my family, I think that I believe that a marriage should be between a man and a woman. No offense to anybody out there, but that's how I was raised."

Miss. Prejean’s statement engendered a fire storm of openly rude and disgusting verbal behavior from her detractors and a demand for an apology from sponsors of the Miss USA event.

http://foxforum.blogs.foxnews.com/2009/05/02/miss_california_usa-2/

How would you deal with such a spontaneous situation and resulting rude behavior?

Some questions to consider:

What do I owe the person who differs from me?
“…we owe them love. And we owe it to them to deal with them as we ourselves would like to be dealt with or treated. ((Matthew 7:12 WNT) Everything, therefore, be it what it may, that you would have men do to you, do you also the same to them; for in this the Law and the Prophets are summed up.)
How then do we desire to be treated? We want people to know what we are saying or meaning. If we are going to voice differences, therefore, we have an obligation to make a serious effort to understand the person with whom we differ. “
Consider the tone of Miss. California’s answer and the tone of the judges behavior in the following.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/worldnews/article-1172123/God-testing-faith-says-Miss-California-Perez-Hilton-calls-dumb-bitch-gay-marriage-row.html

What Can I Learn from Those Who Differ From Me?
“To raise the question, "What do I owe the person who differs from me?" is very important, for otherwise any discussion is doomed to remain unproductive. The truth that I believe I have grasped must be presented in a spirit of love and winsomeness.”
“When we are sure that our outward approach is proper, we need secondly to safeguard the inward benefits of courtesy. We need to ask the question, "What can I learn from those who differ from me?" It is not censurable selfishness to seek to gain maximum benefits from any situation that we encounter. It is truly a pity if we fail to take advantage of opportunities to learn and develop that almost any controversy affords us.”

How Can I Cope with Those Who Differ from Me?
“Now "coping" involves naturally two aspects known as "defensive" and "offensive." Unfortunately, these terms are borrowed from the military vocabulary and tend to reflect a pugnacious attitude which injects bitterness into controversies. We should make a conscious effort to resist that trend. Furthermore "offensive" is often understood as meaning "giving offense" or "repulsive" rather than simply "passing to the attack." It may therefore be better to use the adjectives "protective" and "constructive" to characterize these two approaches.”
“Constructively, it behooves me to show that my view is in keeping with the totality of revealed truth, with the structure of the Christian faith as an organism of truth.”

The above questions come from the citation below and I would suggest one read the entire article. Who knows, you might disagree?
http://www.founders.org/journal/fj33/article3.html

I admire Miss. Prejean and I believe that she has excellent repose. Miss. Prejean’s statement, “but that's how I was raised.” gives eternal credence to married parents and marriage in particular, a man and a women.

I believe that all who defend the faith or stand up for the faith or proclaim the faith should be prepared continually to work within the framework of the above philosophy of the three questions.

“We are called upon by the Lord to contend earnestly for the faith (Jude 3). That does not necessarily involve being contentious; but it involves avoiding compromise, standing forth for what we believe, stand­ing forth for the truth of God—without welching at any particular moment.” Roger Nicole

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