Motive and Deed

Gen 2:23. And Adam said: "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man."

The bond of marriage is essentially an attitude with a constant renewal. The idea that my spouse is “bone of your bone and flesh of your flesh”, directs my thoughts to be aimed at not just my motives, but my deeds. As a young husband I found it inspiring to be physically directed to my wife in my passion for her and the desired to have children and to assist her in enhancing my grand objectives. Surely this is what God indicates in Adam’s statement.

I did not see another very important principle in this Scripture, it does not just apply to passion and procreating, it applies to the very essential fact that I, as a husband, am responsible to the care of her bone and flesh. (I am not excluding her soul.)

I suppose that this idea of caring for bone and flesh my not be something we give thought, but I assure you it is immediate and a husband’s obligation.

For me that very act of caring for my wife in sickness has caused the “gas prices”, “government buyout” and “National election” to be minutiae. It has caused me to re-examine my attitude of the past and to regret my slothfulness.

There are uncountable idiosyncrasies that each spouse possesses and we do not even recognize them. At least that is my opinion, as I discover how my wife washes her face or washes her hair. I should say, how I now wash her face or wash her hair.

I am not being confessional, I am becoming enlightened.

One of the things I have been enlightened about is that I am keeping my wife alive and giving confidence. Just being in her presence presents a confidence and strength. I did not know this, she told me. As she heals and gathers physical strength, it is my obligation to help her gather psychological and spiritual strength.

A last thought, my care of my wife adds to the security of our home.